I was a critical care nurse, married to a surgeon, whose life course pivoted when my second son had a massive neonatal stroke and my third son had leukemia.
I remember waking up terrified after the birth of my second son asking, “Where’s my baby?” He had been sent to a children’s hospital 30 miles away after a massive stroke, seizing.
Other people’s babies were crying all around me, and all I wanted was to hold my son. Confused and overwhelmed my head was spinning from people talking at me and all the unanswered questions.
Then, I heard a voice inside me say: “Just breathe.”
Once I did, the fog lifted. I knew that once with my son, we’d connect tune in, and he would help me know what was needed. I had to recover from what I expected the birth of my son to be and allow what was to unfold and reveal me my path.
I had no choice but to turn to the voice of my intuition on for a way to heal my son so I became an Integrative Health Coach and Educator, an ACE Certified Personal Trainer, Certified Karuna Reiki Master and Certified Mindfulness Practitioner and Educator.
My third son was diagnosed with high risk acute lymphoblastic leukemia on the very day I found out I was carrying was my fourth son. This time, I had the tools and I knew how to trust myself to help my son navigate his cancer treatments and get well.
My own health suffered as a warrior mom, constantly prepping for battle, stuck in fight or flight, exhausted and depleted.
I finally realized that I had to put my oxygen mask on first before I could be there for my family. I needed to deal with the emotions and stress of my busy life before I burned out completely.
Tame the Chaos to Reclaim Health & Happiness My passion and purpose is helping mothers of children with special challenges and anyone working with children to find calm in the chaos of life. Learn to take back power over their health and happiness.
My boys and I are all healthy and strong. We have learned to adjust, reset and grow one empowered moment at a time. I healed myself from chronic fatigue, depression, gastrointestinal problems, and migraines.
To calm the chaos of my life and reset my nervous system I disciplined myself to take pauses or mindful moments throughout my day.
Until I take care of myself, I cannot be as effective, listen to my intuition and be there for my kids in the manner in which I desire.
Creating time throughout the day, even just two minutes, helps me to pause with the purpose of rese ng my “fight or flight” and allowing me to find my calm. THEN I can tune into the wisdom of my mind, body and spirit to regain control of my health and happiness.
In my experience, resetting one’s health and happiness is done so one choice, one thought, one conscious act on and one moment at a time.
I bridge the gaps in healthcare and healing by connecting modern medicine with alternative healing, connecting science and intuition, self-care with caring for others and connecting adults with their kids.
Tools I gained and implemented from nursing, motherhood, integrative nutrition, mindfulness, intuition, reiki and energy balancing techniques, personal training, yoga and meditation help me and my family.
Leading by example I share these tools and strategies with mothers and children who seeking centering and calming the chaos of life. Helping teach others how to connect to their mind, body and spirit needs enable me to help them achieve health and healing beginnings.
Learning how to regulate one’s nervous system starts by the creating me required to slow down and be truly present in life. Time to heal from within our self through empowerment, perspective and purpose.
My wisdom and knowledge comes from professional as well as personal experience from a grounded and ‘real’ place.
This allows me to connect heart to heart with those seeking to take back control of their health and happiness, one choice, one action, and one thought at a time.
FREE Taming the Chaos Call to help you identify where you are, where you want to be and what is stopping you from getting there. https://butterflyfamilyw.kartra.com/calendar/tamingthechaos
INTEGRATIVE LIFE RESET COACHING: (Individuals and Groups - remote and in person.) Coaching sessions to support your needs however you need it in the moment: Stress management techniques, life review and self-evaluation, mindful meditations, mindful movement, nutritional support or energy balancing with reiki, guided meditations and stone energy grids.
INSIDE OUT HEALING GROUP COACHING PROGRAM Inside Out Healing Group Coaching Program for those ready to dive deep into self-discovery & awareness. This is for people who are already on their path to self-awareness and healing. It is an 8-week online workshop with weekly zoom group coaching calls and one 1:1 coaching session. There are worksheets and a workbook to accompany program as well as Facebook Group.
FREE BONUS OFFER Warrior Woman Reset: Top 10 Tips to find Calm in the Chaos eBook at https://butterflyfamilyw.kartra.com/page/warrior-woman
WHAT OTHERS SAY...
"Less than a year after I was diagnosed with Lupus and Sjogren’s disease I had finally reached a point in my recovery when I knew I had to take charge of my health to help heal my body. I had done enough research to know that your diet affects every aspect of your body, but I needed someone knowledgeable to guide me along the way. I emailed Jen, and asked her if she could help me along my journey to feel better. From our very first meeting, she gently led me through the daunting task (for me at the time), of weeding through food allergies, recipes, substitutions, weekly meal planning and snack attack planning. For a while my eating habits, as I knew them, turned upside down and I felt physically horrible. Jen encouraged me to keep at it and, thankfully, I did. Now I know not only what triggers a “flare up” diet wise, but also, mentally, I don’t stumble as much when it comes to my body/mind struggle. She also helped me manage the stresses of being a mother of 3 young children. Jen has a great “mind/body” approach to nutrition and life in general. I now believe it’s essential to my health. Our bodies and minds need TLC to work properly and, thanks to Jen, that reminder is part of my daily life.” - Chrissie, Life Reset Coaching Client, Jennifer Ewing
My son and I have both greatly benefited from the Integrative Life Reset Coaching. I have finally been able to manage my thyroid function, alleviate cholesterol issues and reduce stress. I am finally allowing my needs and interests to be prioritized where I used to put them last on my list. My son, who has dyslexia and dysgraphia, has noticed remarkable improvements in his mood, motor skills and attention since working with Jen. He admits that he does not get as frustrated at school and at homework time; and he says he is sleeping better. We both attribute these health improvements to the health coaching, education and support provided by Jen Tolo.” - KJ and Zac, Life Reset Coaching Client
“This program is powerful if you’re ready to dig deep and find out what’s holding you back. Jen’s supportive guidance and intuitive understanding helped me peel the layers of deep-rooted belief systems and stories that I tell myself, encouraging me to questioning, is it true? This program helped me realize, perhaps, there is another perspective that needs consideration. I have learned to be more mindful, less reactive, and to start to let go of what doesn’t serve me. I feel more empowered to take back control over what I can control… me. The rewards of this program are true inner peace, more harmony in my life and finally starting to reconnect to the joy of living. I have done several other programs to bring me more inner peace, and I highly recommend Jen’s Inside Out Healer Program if you want to go a little deeper and connect to your soul’s desire and purpose.” - Caroline, Inside Out Healing Participant
DID YOU KNOW
Dan Siegel, author of Whole Brain Child, talks of wellbeing as like a river. Total balance and wellness is floating in the middle of the river, adjusting to bumps and curves along the way. On the banks of the river are chaos and control. When we resist the “flow”, we try to control and hang tightly to one bank. When our control slips, we bounce over to the other bank, chaos. Then, to move off the bank of chaos, we cling to control, bouncing back and forth from bank to bank versus flowing comfortably in the river of wellbeing.
We can only control ourselves, our choices, our thoughts and our actions or reactions. We can only control the present moment, not the past nor the future. We can learn and grow from the past and we can influence the future with our choices in the present moment. Everything else, we need to let go of and flow, versus resist. This is how you begin to tame the chaos of life… from inside self.
Family Fuel, A Busy Mom’s Guide to Healthy Living brings awareness to our relationship with, not only food, but each other. It connects people with food, family, and healthy lifestyle choices, offering families tips for taming the chaos of their lives so they can take back control of their health and happiness, one choice at a time.
This is food education, inspiration, and super-healthy recipes all in one power-packed book. Think wholesome meal planning, tasty snack ideas, and practical guides.
The intention is to bring families together through meal preparation, family meal time, and shared experiences. Readers will keep this book on their kitchen counter because everyone loves a practical resource that helps everyone they love!